How do i know if my husband still finds me attractive? When we get ready to have sex or make love he seems to be distant. Looking at porn magazines videos and focuses a lot on himself. Im not even sure he realizes hes doing it but lately i have felt very alone and we havent been having sex. What do i do? And how do i handle it? Without hurting his feelings?

He might be experiencing a little of added pressure around you in the bedroom. Pornos is relaxing and it sparks creativity sometimes. Give him some time he will come back to you. By the way, all you have to do is hang around still. He’ll be okay!

Things come and go. We have times we want more sex one on one and other times we want more group. We know many that are in the sceen hard core only to drop out for a few years only to get back into swinging. So I’d say don’t worry to much and give it time. As long as you stay together things will change many times over the years. Or at least that is what we’ve found with most couples we know. Also seems the more they worry and try and control the more they break up and the more problems happen. We also feel swinging is a good thing to keep couples together though when couples start it breaks up most as learning that sex is not as magical and your lover will make the same noise with others that they use with you.